What about the plan?

If you’re anything like me, you love a good plan. I must admit that my love of planning started at a very early age. I remember being a young teenager and having my entire life planned out. I was going to a college far away from home where I would meet my soulmate, get married right after college, go straight to law school and open my own law firm all by the age of 27. I anticipated no bumps in the road and smooth sailing. HA!

I look back at the plans I had, and it makes me both laugh and cry. I can’t believe how naïve I was thinking that everything would just go according to my plan. It’s easy to chalk it up to just being young and having grand ideas about life and how it would turn out. What happens when you’re an adult and you make adult plans but those don’t pan out. As a child, it’s easy to make plans and expect them to turn out exactly how you’ve pictured it because your young and haven’t yet been exposed to the world. But what happens when your adult plans don’t quite get off the ground.  When you finish college and can’t find the right career or the right mate, when life doesn’t look like anything you imagined.

The feeling of devastation can overtake you especially when you log onto social media and it seems that everyone has everything together. I remember being 22 and seeing friends on Facebook I just graduated college with going to grad school, buying and building houses and not to mention getting married at what seemed like a rapid pace. I have to admit the jealousy I felt was palpable. I couldn’t figure out why I was the only one who hadn’t accomplished anything or why my life seemed so stagnant. I had never felt so alone.

The dangerous part of social media is that it only shows the best parts; the parties, the friends, the makeup, all of it. However, behind the scenes are usually a lot different from the filtered shots we’re all use to seeing. The enemy wants us to believe we are in this alone but that can’t be further from the truth. God did not send us into the world to be alone or to be overtaken by it but to love one another and be there for each other. It’s hard to let others in when you feel like no one can understand what you’re truly going through. The truth is that we all go through something and if we just opened up to each other then I think the world would be a little better of a place.

So, I encourage you to all to not look at the pictures you see on the internet as truth but to look past what you see as perfection. One thing I had to realize over time is that everyone goes through something and that we are never alone despite what our circumstances may tell us. When you’re feeling that overwhelming sense of loneliness, take solace in the fact that there someone out there going through the same things you are. Don’t get lost in the sadness but reach out to someone you trust, if you feel inclined pray, mediate, do whatever you need to get out of the dark spot.

Life is not perfect and neither are people, just remember to take care of one another while we’re here because we’re all in this together.

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